Brenda Silveira

2 kids arguingPeople naturally like to be right.  We like to win the battle.  We like to be the centre of attention.  We want people to think we are smart.  We want people to respect us.  We want to be understood.   Of course, the other person wants all these things too and we can’t both win the battle.  Sometimes we win and sometimes we need to allow ourselves to lose. 

It does make us feel good when we are right, but unfortunately nobody is right all the time.  Trying to prove that we are always right will not make people respect us and they will not necessarily think we are smart.  In fact, you can lose friends if you insist on always being right.

We have to realize that relationships are more important that being right.  Does it matter what team won the game last year or who played a part in a movie?   Even if you think you are right, it is sometimes better to let the other person think they are right in order to keep peace.

It doesn’t matter if we are right or wrong, we should allow others to share their opinions and be open-minded enough to listen to what they are saying.  Listening is a great communication skill and many people are very weak in this area.

Instead of always trying to be right, try to be understanding and look at things from the other person’s perspective.   We all see things differently.  Both of you might be right and both of you might be wrong.  And how important is it anyway?   You can try to be right all the time or you can have good relationships.  You can’t have both.  The choice is yours.


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5 Responses to “You are not always right”

  1. Jumping Polar Bear Says:

    It can be hard accept that we are not right all the time :)

  2. Tabitha Creech Says:

    Great post! So much truth to this. I think it comes down to respect. It’s about respect for another person and their perspective and opinions.

  3. melanie jean juneau Says:

    “You can be right. You can be dead right and bring death to everyone around you” Jean Vanier (Catholic founder of L’Arche)

  4. Loving Language Says:

    I like the practice of learning a language. If you’re not making tons of mistakes, you’re not learning. If you don’t look foolish, then you’re not talking. Learning languages for me is a great exercise in the progress one makes through humble mistakes.

  5. Mary Says:

    I have heard the quote “Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?”

    Sometimes it is hard to see when to make a stand and when not to. I suspect that when people fight over trivial things that there is something deeper going on. They aren’t really arguing over a game or a movie like your examples. Each person needs to step back and ask themselves why they are reacting the way that they do.

    Thanks for a good post.

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